Throughout my life, this has caused much discomfort for people around me.
Besides being a shit shaker upper, I am also a fierce advocate for authentic communication. I’m done censoring myself because it might rattle some cages. I try to choose words that are gentle, but I’m not always successful. And sometimes words just blurt out of my mouth before I even know what’s happened!
Yes there is value in being blunt. Unfortunately it’s quite a crap shoot how bluntness will be received.
So if something I say or do pisses you off or hurts your feelings or otherwise rattles your cage, please know that my intention is NEVER to cause you pain. But just because that’s not my intention doesn’t mean it won’t happen. 😓 It can be painful when the world holds up a mirror that shows us something uncomfortable about ourselves.
And that’s all any of us are for each other – mirrors. If someone says something that makes us feel good, they are just reflecting (bringing our attention to) the peace and love and joy that already exist inside us. If someone says something that feels bad, they are just reflecting to us a part of ourselves that still needs some healing.
So the next time someone says something that makes you feel some kinda way, I invite you to have the courage to ask questions.
Seek clarity from the person on the deeper meaning and intention of their statements or actions.
Go within and find the fear that their statements touched in you.
It *might* be true that the person really was trying to hurt you, but more often than not, in my experience, moments like these are opportunities. Opportunities to learn more about myself and what I’m ready to face and release and heal.
Sometimes discomfort is necessary for getting our attention when it’s time to grow and learn and heal.
Welcome the pain, and then ask it why it has shown up in this way – at this time – in this form.
#BeBrave #FaceTheShadow #YouAreWorthIt