But I thought we ALREADY deschooled . . .

In Home Education circles Deschooling has two meanings – both important – yet very different in scope and process.

Deschooling is often referred to as the initial period of transitioning from school to home education: allowing kids (and parents) to decompress after leaving the “rat race.”  Taking a break from everything academic and relieving any pressure that school put on the family.  Many consider it a finite period and once a family is “done” then they can really get busy with their chosen style of home education and never look back.

But Deschooling is much, much more if you’d like to Unschool successfully. 
In this context Deschooling is the process of letting go of our schoolish “programing” and the beliefs that our upbringing and culture have instilled in us.

The first Deschooling link below includes the popular formula: “1 month of Deschooling for every year the child [or parent] was in school,” but I’ve found that for many people it takes MUCH longer.  And it can vary depending on the kind of experiences or trauma that a person had in school (or even later in life surrounding education.)

Parents are usually the ones who need to deschool the most.  We are the ones who have lived in this “culture of school” the longest.  Most of us spent our entire childhoods and young-adulthoods in school, so deschooling can take us WAY longer than the formula above.

Deschooling can be challenging for parents . . .

  • even if we have spent MUCH time and effort learning about and understanding Unschooling
  • even if we have consciously let go of the “schooling” we received in our youth
  • even if we have been Unschooling successfully without “incident” for years

For our whole lives we have been steeped in a culture that values “academic” activities over other activities that children enjoy.  We are overtly bombarded AND subtly influenced by beliefs and judgements that support the dominant culture full of “shoulds” and deadlines (i.e. age 6 for reading, age 18 for adulthood) that are totally antithetical to the natural unfolding of the process of Unschooling.

It’s very common for long time unschoolers to think we are “done” letting go of our school-ish beliefs and then ***BAM*** our kids hit a certain age/milestone or our mother-in-law makes a comment that shows us we’re not quite done after all.  The resulting negative feelings we have show us that we still have some doubts, fears or anxiety about Unschooling and about allowing our kids to TRULY follow their interests without judgment, coercion or otherwise inserting ourselves in their process.  Sometimes these doubts can be released by reading, conscious reflection and further “letting go.”  Sometimes schooly beliefs are held deep in our subconscious and it takes more effort to change them.

(If you’re having trouble with a certain belief you can’t seem to shake here is a list of techniques that myself and others have found useful for changing stubborn subconscious beliefs.)

Parents’ willingness or resistance to the process of Deschooling CAN have an effect on how easily our kids’ transition from School to Home Education, or from School-at-Home to Unschooling.  It will DEFINITELY have an effect on the Unschooling lifestyle once the transition period is over (or even if there never was a transition period because they’ve been Unschooling since birth.)

Our doubts, fears and anxieties about the things our kids are doing or NOT doing are REALLY caused by our residual “schooly” beliefs.  The more willing we are to explore that connection, the easier it is to work with those beliefs and continue the process of letting go.

My advice: Go easy on yourself.  You are undoing decades of habit and societal programing.  Just continue to read and reflect.  Observe your children as objectively as possible and practice REALLY listening to them.  They are showing us the way.

My favorite deschooling practice and one I recommend often to new and experienced Unschoolers alike, is this:

 

Anytime I notice doubts, fears or anxieties about my kids’ education or development I take that as a reminder to focus inward and work on another layer of deschooling myself.  When those negative emotions above tempt me to “meddle” in their process of Unschooling, I instead take action to further MY process of Deschooling.

Here are some great descriptions of Deschooling from the Unschooling Mom 2 Mom group on Facebook.  The first is from Linda Wyatt:

“Deschooling has less to do with what kids DO, than it does with how the family is THINKING and FEELING about learning. That’s what changes during deschooling. It isn’t some sort of temporary break from educational things, like a vacation, it’s a complete restructuring of perceptions of what learning IS, what it looks and feels like. 

This processing takes time. Sometimes LOTS of time. Even those of us who have been unschooling for a very long time occasionally find little “blips” of school-based thinking we had been hanging onto without realizing it, and need to clear those out.”  

And this from Brie Jontry:
‘[I] have been doing this long enough to also experience when something innocuous prompts me to step back and go, ‘wow! How did that fear/nervousness/clenchy feeling slip in there?’

A few years ago another long (long) time unschooling mom and I realized we stumbled over our kids being X age and not knowing how to ride a bike! Silly, right? Like there’s some window of learning for bike-riding. Or tying shoe laces! 

Recently, my child and I have been talking about deschooling as a model for de-gendering – noticing how ideas of binaries: either/or as the only possibilities (educational/entertainment) crop up in the ways we view the world, experiences, and the choices people make. 

Just like with ideas about gender, I think it’s a good idea to remain open to the possibility that your experiences – which for most of us include school – can (and probably will) crop up at various times in the background of our thinking and need some deeper exploration, in terms of bias, both conscious and unconscious. 

Something many of us have talked about at various times is the idea that we never finish deschooling, [which] could be helpful to keep in the background.”

Here is an eloquent post from my friend and co-moderator on Unschooling Special NeedsDelia Tetelman:
“Deschooling is a very mild description. For me it’s been like deprogramming. There are so many norms that I feel are branded into me like with a hot iron. I’ve had to peel the layers back slowly.

My acupunturist said today that in Eastern Medicine and Native cultures, body parts are not named after some male scientist, like Fallopian Tube, or Broca’s Area. In Western medicine, it’s all about the ego and recognition and not about the spirit and the purpose of nature.

The patriarchal and academic status quo exists throughout our culture. Challenging authority, especially patriarchal authority is difficult, and realizing that authority is not “science” or “nature” is even harder. My conclusion: it’s my children who are teaching me. I’m the one who is unlearning.”

Delia also compared Deschooling to Cult Deprogramming (!) in this post:
“Deprogramming someone out of a real cult is a process where the deprogrammer chips away at the false assumptions that the person has about the cult and exposes the cult’s lies and contradictions. It’s a process whereby the person goes from a ‘sacred regard’ for the cult, to a realization of the coercion and manipulation being used to control members. 

It’s useful to study the similarities of all cults which boils down to what is known as ideological totalism. After exiting a cult, a person has to rebuild his/her entire belief system and can often feel like they are “floating”. They feel lost, ungrounded, and still have emotional trauma.  

Although public school is not a cult, there are parallels. There is a whole unsubstantiated belief system behind it and participants are prohibited from going against it. Deschooling is allowing new thoughts about the assumptions that you’ve had drilled into you, and chipping away at them until you are free from the ideological constraint that your children must go to school and they must follow a curriculum or else they won’t be educated, i.e. ‘saved,’ or ‘enlightened.’  Freedom of thought should be a civil right, but if it were, we could sue public schools for violating it.”

More perspectives on Deschooling:

http://www.livingjoyfully.ca/…/what_is_deschooling.htm

http://sandradodd.com/deschooling/

http://unschoolery.com/de-schooling

http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/deschooling.html

The Practice of Desire

Video-A-Day #2

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So much gratitude for everyone participating in the Video-A-Day Challenge!
I have been so inspired by your courage to just get out there in one take or two – imperfections and all.  We are all PERFECTLY imperfect!!!


It’s never too late ~ join the fun and post your videos in the main Radiant Living Facebook group OR the Radiant Living with The Desire Map group.  Click on over to check out everyone else videos!RL Video-Day1250x720

Video-a-Day #1

Here’s my first Video-a-Day video!  RL Video-Day1250x720

I had just been talking with a friend about my upcoming Radiant Living with The Desire Map Workshop and wanted to share my excitement + a little sneak preview of exactly what we will be doing on May 16 & 17.

Press play and please leave feedback in the comments below!

Video-A-Day Challenge!

RL Video-Day1250x720I’ve been wanting to venture into making some Vlog posts for Radiant Living and for a long time I resisted.  Finally serendipity intervened and I DID make two videos (I’ll post links to those below) but as I tried to continue “Vloging” I hit a brick wall.

In order to overcome my resistance and fear, I decided to challenge myself to just make a little video about SOMETHING everyday.  And I want to invite YOU to join me!  Click PLAY!

Share your videos in the Radiant Living Facebook group!  Let’s support each other!



Here’s the “Opening the Box” video that Nina helped me do to get started . . .



And some of you saw my first attempts at video on Facebook.  I’ve edited those together for a little Vlog on Talking to Kids About Alcohol.

2015 Retreat is ON!!!

Registration for the Fall Retreat is almost ready!

[update – it’s READY – click here to REGISTER]

We are so excited for our community to gather again November 5th – 9th!  This year we are making some changes to the schedule with the goals of:

  • RadRetreatMaximizing the support attendees receive during the Retreat
  • Helping new folks assimilate into the group more easily and
  • Enabling ALL of our Radiant Community to get the most out of the workshops, activities AND just being together!

As we finalize registration details, we wanted to go ahead and announce prices so everyone can plan their finances accordingly.   In order to make the Retreat happen, we’ve had to raise some of the prices a smidge.  But don’t worry!  There are still plenty of opportunities available to reduce the fees for your family.

Since it’s its inception in 2013, we have tried to keep the Radiant Retreat affordable for as many families as possible.  So the prices started out very low compared to other conferences. We want you to know that we have wrestled with the numbers to keep it as affordable as possible, but due to everything that is involved in putting on the Retreat, we feel that the prices this year are still very fair for everyone.  The organizers make a considerable investment of time, energy, expertise and money to plan and execute the Retreat, and the prices must support that.

We also want to highlight the fact that this event takes a considerable amount of COMMUNITIY EFFORT to make it happen because we don’t have a hotel staff taking care of us and the facilities like many other conferences.  We have to take care of it ALL – and that’s what’s so great about the Radiant Community – the way members step up to help where help is needed!

In 2013, when I was planning our stay at Cleburne State Park, the Rangers said that because our group would be over 50% kids, the park would be littered with trash by the end of the weekend and they were sure that “something would get torn up” because middle school aged kids were included.  I assured them that our group would not be typical in that manner and they just laughed.  Sure enough, the “Radiant Tribe” was very respectful of the grounds and facilities and we proved those Rangers wrong!

The Radiant Tribe IS remarkable and EVERYONE’S contributions make the Retreat GREAT!

So here are the prices so you can plug them into your budget.  If it turns out that you need “Tuition Assistance” you can apply for Radiant Staff jobs here in exchange for Registration Credits to reduce your fees.

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Early Bird (until June 30)Regular Price (until Oct 31)Late Registration – Space PermittingAt the Door
First 4 Household Members$50 each$60 each$70 each$80 each
Household Members #5 – 8 (including grandparents)$25 each$30 each$35 each$40 each
Kids 3 and under who will NOT attend Kid Village ChildcareFreeFreeFreeFree
Single Day Pass (per person) $25 each

 

LodgingNightly Price
Private Campsites – Screened Shelter, Tent, RV – (up to 8 people)$25-$35per SITE
Group Campsite – Tent Only$9per TENT
Bunkhouse – Heat & AC – Bathrooms Adjoining$10per PERSON

Click here to learn more about the different Lodging Options.
Click here for MORE lodging options for NON-CAMPERS.

Please contact the Radiant Team if you have questions about the Retreat, and keep an eye out for registration in the next few days so you can take advantage of the Early Bird prices!

Heaps of Love,
Christina and your Radiant Team
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Magical Powers of Creation

It’s been an interesting couple of months.

Since making the decision to become a Desire Map licensee and taking the leap to put myself out there and facilitate my own Desire Map gemFeelingsworkshops, things have been moving VERY fast.  It’s definitely a good sign and confirmation that I am firmly “in the flow” and fully connected to my higher self, my higher purpose and the work I am meant to do in the world.  But it’s pretty intense too!

Sometimes I feel like it’s all I can do to hold on for dear life!  I have a to-do list 10 miles long.  There is so much I WANT to do in the world.  But it’s actually stronger than just wanting – like I don’t have the desires – but the desires have ME!

So I just have to do my best to saddle up and try to direct this incredible flow of energy into something productive and helpful.  I feel like a little girl trying to maintain worthy-takecontrol of a fire hose.  The inspiration often comes faster than I can harness it and direct it.

THEN on top of all that, there is the nitty-gritty of putting on a workshop in May AND a Retreat in November.

So lately I’ve been “buckling down” to get some “serious work done” on these 2 upcoming events, and I’ve been baffled when it feels like I’m just spinning my wheels.  My internal dialogue is something like this:

“I’m so “in the flow” lately!  Why aren’t things flowing when I sit down to check things off of my to-do list? UGH! What is happening to me???”

The thing I keep forgetting is that NOTHING is happening TO me.  I’m creating this situation.  And I have the power to get back into the flow at any moment.

I recently heard something funny from a friend who’s a long time member of a well known 12 step program. He says he is a “proud member of the society of slow learners.”  Well I’m beginning to think I could be an honorary member.

How long have I KNOWN this truth that I am the creator of my reality?  Duh!!!

I’ve experienced the truth of that statement hundreds of times in the last 14 years.  In that course of time I’ve found my way back to “the flow” over and over and over again.  It’s a practice for sure, and I’m getting better, but for some reason these last few weeks I’ve been forgetting it and finding myself back in the old habits of UN-intentional creation: creating what I DON’T want rather than what I DO.  Luckily I’ve been able to find my way back – with my core desired feelings guiding the way.

***Sigh*** Maybe that puts me into the category of medium-paced learner?  Maybe.
Well at least that’s progress! 😉

One thing I’ve (very slowly) learned is that what others call “procrastination” is really just a “not yet” message for me.   I literally feel paralyzed like no amount of will power can get me to act on that looming project that I “should” be working on.  I’ve felt this sensation my entire life and when I have listened – when I have “caved” to the procrastination, things work out great!  I get to have fun in the moment AND the project falls perfectly into place – often at the last minute!  Not without some work on my part, but its feels almost effortless because it just flows so easily.  When I WAIT until I am TRULY inspired to act on a project, it really does come together SO much more easily and with SO much less effort than when I try to do it on a more “appropriate” time table.

So lately I’m staring up at a mountain of check lists, tasks and errands to make these Radiant Living events happen.  I’m feeling this procrastination paralysis and it takes every ounce of my will power to overcome that feeling and get “busy.”  And despite the fact that I KNOW what the procrastination feeling really means for me, I buckle down anyway and proceed to spin my wheels.  THEN I find myself allowing negative emotions drive my actions:

Fear that I won’t get everything done in time.

Guilt for wanting to blow off responsibilities in favor of fun.

Throw in a little PTSD from school and being repeatedly admonished for “waiting until the last minute,” and it’s all enough to get a girl firmly OUT of the divine flow of creative energy.

And never mind that I KNOW with all my heart and soul that these negative emotions are the LAST place from which I should be trying to create!

So as I’ve been noticing when this happens, I’ve kept the Desire Map and my core desired feelings (CDFs) in the forefront of my mind:  Flow. Connection. Freedom. Joy.  Despite my best efforts to “be a good girl” and get my work done before playing, my CDFs just keep leading me elsewhere.

First they led me to blow off my to-do list and get out the art supplies for some painting (inspired by this amazing artist that I stumbled upon.)  The paintings have become both a creative outlet AND a meditative practice that is helping me release the negative thoughts and get back into the flow.  Then my CDFs led me to spend money that I “shouldn’t” have spent on jewelry making supplies!  Working with Laura Akers on the Desire Pendants inspired me to finish some personal pieces I’d been envisioning for YEARS!

Another time recently my CDFs told me to ditch work and go looking for bugs in the backyard, or make “food art” with my 5 year old.  I’ve followed my feelings back to the dance floor where my husband and I met, but life got in the way of our dancing for the last 8 years!  I can’t even BEGIN to tell you how healing it’s been to get back to dancing,  But that’s a whole ‘nother blog post!

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The past few days, henna body art (inspired by the Truthbomb tattoo collection) has helped me get back into the flow of effortless creation.  Not only is it a creative outlet to get my juices flowing, but having my CDFs written on my body has given me the most potent reminders yet to keep me on track.  Seeing my henna CDFs in a crucial moment helped me to say NO to a social/familial obligation that just didn’t feel right.  I normally would have sucked it up and gone – but I this time I didn’t.  I took care of MY needs first and it felt GREAT!  CDF tattoos for the WIN!!!

As I have actively sought out my core desired feelings in ALL of my endeavors, I have focused on “have to’s” a lot less and focused on “want to’s” a lot more.  And the MAGICAL thing is that the details of the “have to’s” have been falling into place.  With very little effort!  The biggest effort involved was getting OUT of the rut of “responsibility” and “obligation” and into some things that others might consider “frivolous” or “selfish.”  But it turns out that THAT is where my power lies.  In doing the things that FEEL GOOD.

Each time I STOPPED TRYING SO HARD to do the “right” thing and decided to do the things that generated my core desired feelings, “the flow” started flowing again.
HELLO FIREHOSE!

And even if you’re not sure exactly what your core desired feelings are – even if you can’t quite put your finger on them, or find the right words to describe them yet . sqMagicalPowersOfCreation. . you can ALWAYS do SOMETHING to feel BETTER than you’re feeling right now.  You can take a nap, get out your glue gun and bedazzle some shit, take a walk, rearrange the furniture, watch mindless TV, meditate, go to dinner with friends, get a massage, have a cup of tea, play with your dog.  There are a MILLION things you can do that feel better than beating your head up against the wall of creating what you DON’T want.  And THAT’S where YOUR power lies.

 

Go do one of those things.
Let go of the guilt and the fear, and experience the magic!

If you want some help getting clarity on your CDFs, join us for the Desire Map workshop or grab the book and start mapping on your own.

Or join us in the Radiant Living with The Desire Map group to read more about my experience with the Desire Map – and share your own!
It really is a great tool for unleashing your MAGICAL POWERS of CREATION!

Happy Mapping!
Christina
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Creating Goals with Soul

How do you want to feel?

In your heart, your body, your career?
When you wake up in the morning,
when you speak your mind,
when you go after what you want?

FullOfYourselfCTWTHE DESIRE MAP is a program
(self-study, workshop or 1-on-1 coaching)
for clarifying what you truly want in every area of your life, and using that powerful awareness to guide your choices from now on.

You will leave this workshop knowing your “core desired feelings” – a guidance system for your decision-making. A GPS for your soul.

We’ll look at our perceptions around “feelings” and goal setting.
We’ll examine how we drive and strive, and see where in our lives we experience freedom — and where we want more of it.

You will be guided through 5 life areas, to explore your most desired feelings in:

  • Lifestyle + Livelihood
  • Creativity + Learning
  • Body + Wellness
  • Relationships + Society
  • Essence + Spirituality

We will create sacred space, inner and outer – an altar, backed by a great music playlist and tied together with shared intentions.

We’re going to burn limiting beliefs (figuratively and literally.)

We will offer up our own wisdom, relate, and learn from each other — like women (and some very cool dudes) always do.

You will make some soul-anchored declarations and attach them to some every day PLANS.

Poetic to the practical.

DESIRE MORE? YEAH, YOU DO.

The Spring Workshop is limited to 15 spaces.

Join me and 14 other Souls to dig deep and launch a new chapter of creating (or stepping up) the RADIANT LIFE YOU DESIRE.


Radiant Living with the Desire Map – Spring 2015

A 2 day in person course for discovering your core desired feelings … and lighting up your life!

Date: May 16 & 17
Time: 10am – 6pm
Place: Garland, TX

Cost: $222
This includes:

  • 2 days of time and space dedicated solely to LOVING YOURSELF and investing in your RADIANT LIFE!
  • The schedule is packed with opportunities and exercises for self discovery, personal growth and releasing limiting beliefs.  There will also be plenty of time for connecting and supporting each other through fears, joys, tears and laughter.  And just visiting and having fun with fellow “seekers.”
  • A lovely catered luncheon both days
  • Wine, fruit and cheese “happy hour” both days
  • The Desire Map Workbook
  • A goody bag packed with gifts to pamper you now AND to support your continued journey after the workshop.
  • “Desire Pendant” you create yourself at the workshop. Jewelry designer Laura Akers will lead us through this process during our happy hour on Sunday!
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click on the photo to learn more about the pendants – yours will reflect your unique “core desired feelings”


HURRY! Registration
ends May 10th.

Registration
and payment details
are HERE.

 


Not sure about the Workshop?

Join the Radiant Living with The Desire Map Facebook group to ask questions and hear more about others’ experiences with The Desire Map.

Self-Study more your style?
Get The Desire Map Book

NOTE:
Plan for aha’s and alleluias. After declaring their core desired feelings, people have been known to make changes.

You may quit stuff, launch something, stand up, shine brighter, ask for more.

You may feel the way you’ve always wanted to.

Heaps of Love,

Christina and the Radiant Team

My Core Desired Feelings:
~ Freedom ~ Joy ~ Connection ~ Flow ~

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Desire Map Workshops & 1-on-1 Coaching

The Desire Map started out as a book, written by Danielle LaPorte. From there, it became the driver of over 500 book clubs around the world.

At the heart of it all? A commitment to feeling good.

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Cynics would say that choosing to place your focus on feeling good is silly – maybe, even selfish.

But I (and thousands of other Desire Mappers around the globe) know better. Because who wants to live a life that doesn’t feel good?

Who wants to work in a job that sucks their life force?

Who wants to be in relationships where they don’t feel nourished and honored?

Who wants to feel bored in their own life?

Not me. And I’m pretty sure, not you.

The Desire Map helps me make better choices by making decisions based on my core desired feelings. And that boils down to living a life that feels good to live.

I’ve watched Danielle LaPorte’s books inspire major transformation in my own life and in the lives of many others. I believe in this material.

… which is why I’m stepping up and offering to guide other people through the desire mapping process by hosting workshops and offering one-on-one coaching.Photo Oct 05

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I don’t believe we’re on this planet to live unfulfilled lives, or to let our potential go unrealized.

I DO believe that we’re each here to design a life that feels good.
Feel good at work, in your clothes, in your relationships, in your heart.

It’d be my honor to support you in creating that.
I’d love to see you at one of my Desire Map workshops
A Radiant Living Gathering
or
for One-on-One Coaching Sessions.

Or join our Facebook Group: Radiant Desire where you can learn more about my experience with Danielle LaPorte’s work and hear from others exploring The Desire Map process.

Heaps of Love,
Christina

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What does The Desire Map have to do with Unschooling?

For any of you who are wondering why you’re getting emails about this Desire Map thing-y when you signed up for an Unschooling conference, I wanted to share some specifics of how I’ve found The Desire Map to be a perfect tool to accompany Unschooling.

It also happens to be a great tool for navigating ANY area of life – and since living IS learning, any tools we find that make LIFE EASIER will make LEARNING EASIER!

We are drawn to Unschooling because we think that following this lifestyle will give us certain feelings.  (Maybe you’re seeking the feeling of freedom, or peace in the home, or feeling more connected to your kids, or . . .  YOU fill in the blank – there is NO wrong answer!)

The Desire Map can help us identify the core feelings we are seeking by choosing this lifestyle, and it shows us how to use those feelings to uncover the next logical steps on our Unschooling journeys.

Unschooling+DMUnschooing CANNOT happen successfully without a SUBSTANTIAL amount of Deschooling on the part of parents.  We have SO MUCH programming to undo from a LIFETIME of living in a culture that highly values the school centric model of education.  Not just 12 years of school programming, but MANY decades of cultural programming that runs DEEP.

Our culture takes for granted that education and learning happen a certain way and have to follow certain structures.  We collectively believe that academic subjects are more valuable than “non-academic” subjects, and that knowledge must be divided up into these “digestible” subjects for learning to even be possible!

I could go on and on with the cultural beliefs that Unschooling challenges, but I think we can all agree there are MANY.  Most of us need help with this process of Deschooling and of clarifying the steps that are best for our family to take to move toward Unschooling – since for most of us this it is uncharted territory!

Humans are in the habit (both consciously and subconsciously) of following the default cultural norms and ideas.  When we begin to let go of these beliefs that are so ingrained in our culture (and in us!) we can feel a little lost – floating out in a sea of endless possibilities which can be freeing, but also very overwhelming and frightening.

We can talk to other families or read about others’ Deschooling and Unschooling experiences and that can DEFINITELY be helpful, but invariably our lives and our children will present unique challenges.

Rather than relying on “external” answers from others or clinging to yet another educational or parenting “dogma,”  I’ve found that turning inward (and helping our kids do the same) is a MUCH more effective and efficient approach to creating the life we envision.

The Desire Map facilitates this process of turning inward.

It helps us dig deep to uncover the core desired feelings that we are hoping Unschooling will give us.  It helps us figure out how to USE our core desired feelings to guide our daily plans, to-do lists and actions.

And the good news is that when we let our feelings guide our daily actions, we actually accomplish our REAL goals (those feelings) RIGHT AWAY!  We don’t have to wait until we are “full fledged Unschoolers” or “perfect” parents to feel the way we want to feel.  We can feel that way NOW – even if it’s just in small, fleeting moments at first – we achieve “success” WAY before the grand goal is achieved.  And we can build on those small successes to feel the way we WANT to feel more and more and more often as the days go by.

As we use this process we find that we have to look outside of ourselves less and less for advice and guidance.  We HAVE the guidance we need – inside each one of us – and we can access it at any time in the form or our feelings.  When issues come up with Unschooling or parenting or anything else in life, we have a tool to figure out the next steps that are RIGHT for ourselves and our families.

How do our kids benefit?

Well aside from just the general benefits of Unschooling and a more peaceful home, our kids learn from our example. As we learn to access the inner guidance of our feelings, and begin to use them more and more to make decisions, our kids see us and learn how to do this as well.

(That is IF they even NEED to re-learn it – we are ALL born knowing how to do this, but it is trained out of most of us – and many of our kids need MUCH less help getting back to doing things this way).

As we learn to trust ourselves, it becomes easier and easier to trust our kids to guide their own lives and educations – even when the path they choose does not conform to societal and educational norms, timelines and expectations.

Now The Desire Map is certainly NOT the ONLY method of learning to access and use this inner guidance.

I’ve spent the last 14 years figuring out this process for myself to create the life and the feelings I desire.  It CAN be done in many different ways by following many different processes. (Believe me!  I’ve studied and pieced together MANY different philosophies to accomplish this!) 😉  But with The Desire Map, Danielle LaPorte has created a nurturing and self-affirming process to peel back the layers of our desires and uncover what it is at our core that drives us.  Then she helps us use these discoveries to guide our daily actions and ultimately accomplish our long term goals.

And once we’ve learned this Desire Map process, we can use it over and over as time goes on, as our desires grow and develop and as our family’s needs change.

So whether your goal is Unschooling or something else entirely, Desire Map can help us ALL dig down past our cultural conditioning of how “THEY” say we SHOULD be living, and find our core desired feelings that are telling us how to find a more authentic and enjoyable life – unique to each one of us!

If you’re interested in learning more about Radiant Living with The Desire Map, you can join our Facebook group for inspiration, to hear about my Desire Mapping process and to hear about upcoming Radiant Living with The Desire Map offerings.Unschooling with the Desire Map

I am planning in-person and virtual Desire Map workshops this spring and summer.  If you’re more of a “self-study” kind of person you can get the book and begin “Mapping” yourself now!

We would love to hear about your experiences with The Desire Map in the Facebook group.  It can be like a virtual Desire Map book club.

Ask questions.  Share your doubts and skepticism.  Share your joys.  Whatever feels good to share – share it!

I’m looking forward to what unfolds for all of us that decide to dive into this process!  If you’re drawn to The Desire Map at all, check it out here and let me know what you think! (email me HERE or message me on Facebook HERE.)

Heaps of Love,
Christina

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